When the Mirror Doesn’t Reflect You Back

Healing the Fixer Pattern and the Pain of Self-Abandonment

Have you ever poured your heart into someone only to realize you were the only one truly present? This episode isn’t about a breakup. It’s about the pattern underneath it. The pattern of performing care, translating silence, and calling it love.

In this reflection, I speak to the one who became the mirror…
Not to reflect her truth, but to reflect someone else’s pain.

Together, we’ll explore:

• Why you stay in relationships that don’t meet you
• The grief that comes with releasing the version of you who made herself small
• The identity of “the fixer” and how to lovingly let her rest
• A somatic practice to honor the part of you who tried to hold it all together

This is a sacred pause for the one who’s ready to stop performing healing…
and start receiving it.

#SelfAbandonment #HealingTheFixer #SomaticHealing #EmotionalHealing #ReturnToSelf

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Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome
• 1:00 When the Mirror Doesn’t Reflect You Back
• 3:57 The Fixer’s Awakening
• 7:49 Letting Go of Who You Had to Be
• 10:08 The Grief That Opens the Door (Somatic Practice)
• 15:19 The Space She Was Never Given