The Presence You Never Got & the Love You Always Had

What if love isn’t something you have to earn, decode, or chase? What if the way you've been trying to be loved is actually a reflection of what you never received?

In this episode, I explore the raw truth behind the “love languages” we cling to—and what’s often hiding beneath them: absence, adaptation, and unspoken emotional needs. Drawing from my own experience of hypervigilance and staying small to stay safe, I guide you through the deeper question we must all ask: What is love, really?

We’ll move through:

• The survival roles we develop when presence is missing
• Why “love languages” are often compensations, not core truths
• How to reconnect with the love that has always lived inside you
• The role of the nervous system in how we receive (or block) love
• Somatic practices for cultivating safety, presence, and true connection

This episode is a return to the essence of love: presence.
 Not performance. Not perfection. Just being.

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Chapters

• 0:04 Opening Reflection: What Is Love, Really?
• 0:52 Welcome
• 1:55 The Survival Strategy We Mistake for Love
• 2:46 Where “Love Languages” Come From
• 4:51 The Cravings Beneath the Silence
• 5:50 The Power of Presence in Healing
• 6:53 How the Nervous System Remembers Love
• 10:47 The Gentle Art of Staying
• 11:52 The Art of Presence
• 14:05 Inviting Authentic Presence
• 15:13 Closing Reflection: Return to What’s True